Introduce Early Consequences

There is a very interesting statement for me to my teacher and friend transmitted to parents. This statement I can when I attended a meeting internet marketing at the Hotel Surabaya. The statement reads "we are free to choose but we are not free to choose the consequences". I was surprised to hear that statement and realize that we as men are free to do anything but we are not free to accept the consequences of what we do. If we do good then that we accept the consequences would also be good. Conversely, if actions are hurting the feelings of others then we will also accept the consequences. The consequences can we hated our friend or enemy of others.The consequences are always there all the time, as parents we will experience it at any time and anywhere. Therefore we should introduce the consequences to our children since as early as possible. It aims to train our children to think what it will do. Our children will learn that the action will he do will have an impact back on him. If he is doing good by dividing the candy to his friend then he will be liked by his friends. If he taunted his friend then he will get the consequences he would be shunned or ridiculed by his friends behind. If we can teach or give consequences to our children in effectiveness then our children will get a very useful lesson that is a way of life bersosial success with its environment.Understanding how to give consequences to teach children is absolute that must be controlled by parents. Know the consequences are very effective to change the behavior of children. However, the consequences are not enough for our children to change the behavior of our children. There are some things we must pay attention to the consequences that we give to our children can succeed with effectively. Some things are:

1. Interests

Consequences that we provide must have an important meaning of our children. for example if the child we love to watch cartoons, we can give our children the consequences of not watching cartoons while he has not completed his job cleaning his bedroom. It is very effective because for our children watching cartoons is something that is important. If we give the consequences of the sodium absorption ratio has a significant value for our children, the consequences of which we give will not be able to change the behavior of our children.

2. Immediately

Consequences that we provide must be immediate, meaning that if we do not give consequences immediately after an event occurs would eliminate the effectiveness of these consequences. This would make no change in the behavior of our children.

3. Intensity

If we are too often or seldom give both positive and negative consequences to our children then the consequences will lose its effectiveness. If we too often give gifts to our children because she was doing good then the child will consider a gift that we give is not the impact of a consequence of the actions he has done.

4. Size

Consequences that we give must be balanced with actions that have been done by our children. If our children do good in school tasks diligently for one week, the road - the road Saturday night with the family is the consequence of a well-balanced. If we give freedom to play for three days is too big consequences for his actions. Provide positive consequences that are too small for the actions of our children make our children feel unappreciated. Conversely, if positive consequences are too large will make our children become spoiled. So before we give a consequence we have to measure it with a deed that has been done to our children.
5. Conditional

Consequences that we have given conditions. For example "You can play after cleaning your bedroom." If we are able to optimum using fifth of the above then our children will get a very valuable lesson from what we have taught. So to change the behavior of our children to be better, we who must change first by always learning. Hopefully useful ...